By Tiwa Says
The weekend is an opportunity to relax and renew. As much as we need a break from the week’s stress, it’s also a time to connect with friends and family.
Relationships after all are the bedrock of everything. This brings me to the issue of passivity in sexual relationships.
It’s ok to be passive in some areas in a relationship but not when it comes to sex. “Submission” does not extend to the bedroom. Passivity kills passion.
When you leave all the moves to your partner without initiating anything or taking active roles in your love-making sessions, it gradually burns out the excitement and begins to get monotonous.
Sex is not just for fun, it’s also an avenue for partners to connect and get to know each other better. But when one partner is holding back and is just an onlooker in the process, it makes building a connection and bond difficult.
In my opinion, passive partners do not always get the best out of sex mostly because their partner is in the dark about how to please and what to do to please them. Sex is supposed to be a pleasurable experience. Not taking advantage of this makes it pointless.
Passivity in some women is deeply rooted in religion, culture and upbringing. Some women were brought up to believe that the pleasures of sex are only for men. These beliefs make it difficult for the woman to be expressive for fear of castigation. The women who dare to be assertive about their sexual needs and desires are sometimes seen as being promiscuous.
Times have changed. Women need to own their sexuality and pleasure. There is nothing wrong with initiating sex and taking your partner on a wild ride…you would be surprised that it’s what he has silently been hoping for.
Statistics have it that most women orgasm more with sex toys than with their partners these days…one of the reasons is that some women are not willing to tell their partners exactly where and how they want to be pleasured..and the men are not patient enough to make their partner’s pleasure a priority.
It is important to note that it’s not only women that can be passive. Some men are.
In conclusion, it takes the effort of both partners to have an unforgettable sexual experience. It is a continuous process of discovery, unlearning and relearning.
The weekend is a good time to start.
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